Friday, January 28, 2011

Unusual Request...

I don't want to appear insensitive to anyone who has ever had the difficult task of choosing a grave marker for a loved one or friend so forgive my tone if it sounds flippant, but I am trying to gather some information regarding online memorial/grave marker ordering. We are getting close to choosing a marker for Vivian. My dearest desire would be to have it in place by her birthday in March or the anniversary of her death in July. The cemetery association has agreed that we could set it ourselves, if we'd like, and they've even offered to help us since they are so glad to have this unmarked grave identified. They indicated there are local companies we could go with, but they haven't always had the best experience with them and they can't recommend them in good conscience.

Anyway, since it has to be a flat marker (cemetery preference) and they said we could set it ourselves, we thought we would look into ordering one online. The cost is significantly less which would allow for the possibility of purchasing one for the aunt (by marriage) who is buried next to Vivian. Many of them have excellent preview websites where you can see what each change will look like as you make it.

I realize I am in a unique situation here... for most people, choosing a grave marker is a heart breaking chore. In my unusual circumstance, it could almost be considered a joy since I know it is fulfilling the life long desire of my Pawpaw and my great-grandparents, Vivian's parents.

Would anyone who has had any experience with this or anyone who has ever used an online headstone service, please send me an email if you want to share your experience privately or leave your thoughts in the combox if you so choose? Thank you!


  1. I follow this blog:

    they own a grave stone business, they are in New York. I don't know if they do online or not, but they might be able to answer some of your questions.

  2. I don't know anything about gravestones... :/

    I just wanted to let you know that I've tagged you as a Stylish and Versatile blogger over at my blog!

    I found your blog while looking for St. Thomas colouring pages for my little siblings while babysitting; unfortunately I didn't see any, but I love your other pages!

  3. Oh, Charlotte -- I missed this original post and am just back from reading it. So heartbreaking -- and yet so very touching that Vivian's family is taking care of her -- and sharing her memory. God bless her soul, and Aunt Helen's.
    And God bless you guys.

    I'm afraid I have no helpful information on grave stones, but am praying that you find just the exact right marker.


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